Ibiza, July 2020
Maria just arrived on the island and we´ve gone to eat sardines in front of the sea to celebrate my birthday. We met here in Ibiza, but she lives in a little house in the outskirts of Madrid. This was the last place I watched snow fall, two or three years ago.
Alba: Sometimes I ask myself if we expect too much from the other. Lately I realized I have a tendency to expect something specific and that from that moment on, I give up from getting surprised. In fact, I feel that whenever I create a space free of expectations, what arrives is even better than what I expected; it’s more genuine.
A: Exactly, although theory is one thing and practice is another. I believe it takes a conscious compromise with oneself not to fall into the typical structures and to allow ourselves to be open to a more sincere and less egocentric love. You have been with Juan for half your life, how does this translate in such a long relationship?
A: I agree, I think freedom is the base of a healthy relationship. To me it is essential to give space to myself and to my partner, in order to choose freely, each day, whether we want to be together or not. To my understanding, being in a relationship requires growth, otherwise it makes no sense.
On the way back home, we stopped by my favorite beach and later Maria helped me water the plants and remove the laundry. We prepared a salad with the tomatoes from the garden and we dealt, half seriously half joking, the goddess oracle cards. She got Dana, the High Priestess and I got Yemanya, Goddess of the seas.
A day to remember.
A film: Jules et Jim, by François Truffaut
A book: Revolutionary road, by Richard Yates
A song: These days, by Nico
Photography Alba Esteva